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Back to School Blues!!

back to school 2018Summer is wrapping up and school is right around the corner (YAY!). Parents your grocery bill is about to go back to normal, just wait on it. I think that’s the thing that excites me the most my bills will normalize and well the fact that I will have a high schooler and a kindergartener. But let’s face it along with those joyous moments as we prepare to send our kids back out into the education jungle, there are some struggles to be had.

For our entire summer break, we’ve stayed up late, slept in, basically our schedule was a free for all, but with school just a few weeks away it’s time to make some adjustments. I once read somewhere (if I could recall I would give credit) that it takes 12 consecutive days for something to become a routine. So since school is just about that amount of time away we have started the following;

  1. Preparing our clothes/lunches for the next day the night before so we can do our morning routine and have our outfit/food for the day ready.
  2. Going to bed at a decent time. This is mainly for my 5-year-old, if she doesn’t get enough sleep we all pay the price in the morning. I don’t want her to start off on a bad note at a new school so 8pm bedtime it is. Now for some this is late, but for our family schedule this is perfect. Helping her develop her nightly routine distracts her from the fact her brother isn’t going to bed.
  3. Test runs to both schools and to work. We’ve gotten up and driven to both schools during rush hour to see how much time it takes. OUR FAMILY IS ALWAYS LATE! I want to start fresh with the new schools so being on time is a priority.
  4. Update your calendar! Hopefully your child’s school has sent out the yearly calendar, you should update your family calendar now. That way you are well aware of school events that will take place and ca prepare accordingly.
  5. FOr older children like my high schooler we have started the conversation about the appropriate amount of study time. With social media we need to be intentional about the time we give toward studying and sticking to it. If you start the conversation now then those “But Mom” moments will hopefully lessen because you;ve already discussed your expectation for studying.

You can still enjoy those last few weeks before school starts, but don’t get left behind and wondering why you are struggling, implement routines now to help alleviate this problem. What are some things you do to help your child(ren) prepare for the return to school? Comment below.

These may help you as well!
LuminoLite Rechargeable 3000K Warm 6 LED Book Light

For those late night’s when your high schooler needs to study late!

Alarm Clock & Night-Light

Rise & Shine little one with this nifty night light and clock!
Learning Responsibility Star Chart

Teaching responsibility doesn’t have to stress you out. Using a chore chart and holding your child accountable will help the future leaders of tomorrow!

The Night Before Kindergarten

The night before the first BIG day of school can be hard, help your child ease into the situation with this cute story about how children are preparing for school.

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Get Ya Money Right!

Join me in the studio with Aisha Taylor! Aisha is the CEO & Founder of FNPhenomenal. “FNPhenomenal is a movement designed to help single moms build financially phenomenal futures by developing the faith to believe that phenomenal living is their reality and acquiring the knowledge and tools needed to achieve their desired goals.” We’re discussing living your best financial lives! Tune in Get Ya Money Right!

Aisha Taylor Promo for site

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You Are the HOTTEST Mom!

denee greathouseThere are so many amazing women, doing amazing things, living extraordinary lives. I think we can all agree with that. There are a few that stay behind the scenes, performing miracles all around us and we will never meet them, but they do these things for us because of who they are. This HOT MAMA Ms. Denee Greathouse does all that and so much more.

Denee as long as I’ve known you, you have always been selfless. You are not only my great friend for over 30 years, but someone I truly admire. I have witnessed you give and expect nothing in return, you are hilarious even in situations where it’s hard to find humor. We affectionately call you “Granny” because your spirit is that of a grandmother, giving wisdom, correction, and love to those around you.

So Denee aka Granny, you are the HOTTEST MOM! May the love you show to others be returned to you 100-fold!

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Dead Right!

Custom-Toe-Tag-TG-3032A couple of weeks ago I had a special guest on my radio show Just One Hot Mom, the conversation was engaging, please check out the replay on iTunes or YouTube. During our discussion, Policing Our Communities, my guest mentioned being Dead Right! That concept stuck with me. Are we teaching our kids the proper way to deal with the police or other authority figures or people that could potentially do them harm. Let me explain…

I am the mother of a young African American male, around our country these young people appear to have a target on their backs when it comes to dealing with the police. I’ve had many conversations with my son about this and I figured one day. I needed to give clear cut instructions on how to deal with the police. I teach my son that he has rights, that people should respect those rights, he has the right to ask questions, if he is right he should voice that. Am I wrong?! I didn’t think so until my guest made that comment, is it more important to be right and potentially lose your life or is it more important to let them think they are right and deal with them in a different manner. I would much rather have my son make it home then know he died trying to be right. Am I a coward for that?! I’ll take that coward status if it saves his life. Now I know some don’t even have to argue and still lose their lives, this is a sad reality, but am I doing everything as his mom to ensure that he has a higher probability of making it home. I don’t want to shake his confidence in becoming the great man I know he is destined to be but I want him to make it to be that great man.

This topic was so much bigger than just the police when I thought about it. My son wants a job so bad, he is currently running his own candy company with the kids at his school, he wants to sign up with a program to work over the summer. I am sure we all have read about in the news or viewed on TV all of these celebrities coming out of the woodwork talking about the abuse they received on the set of show and movies while trying to build their careers. A lot of them are established in careers now, but at the time were unknown. Is there some potential employee who I  will tell my son to respect because they’re his supervisor, but this joker will use this role to their advantage. I’ve instilled many things in my kids, they are confident, they know about stranger danger, about not letting anyone touch their private places, they know right from wrong just like I’m sure all these people did, but someone still manage to slip in and steal a portion of their joy.

What are we to do as parents when the talks we give, the ones we feel are most important are not enough? Personally I’m talking more, I’m asking more questions, I’m reading body language, I am studying my children more now than ever. They are my greatest subjects and I  refuse to drop the ball with them. I’m engaged and I’ve surrounded my children with people I believe have their best interest at heart. Not everyone is considered an Auntie or Uncle. I am open to discuss whatever is on their minds even if it conflicts with me or makes me extremely uncomfortable.

This issue has stumped me Hot Peeps, what are your suggestions, drop them in the comments. We will definitely have a follow-up to this post inthe near future.