What If This Is My Body?!

When I look in the mirror I see Nik! Cute, lovable, THICK, short, curly hair, golden skin Nik. I also see some changes I’d like to make. Like any other mom/woman I see the changes in my body after kids, as I age, and as I embrace who I continuously evolve to be. For example this fupa (fat upper pubic area) I could divorce it, I’d like one chin, toned arms, and thighs that don’t give a round of applause when I walk and a butt that is WOW from the back and the side. Judge if you must that’s … Continue reading What If This Is My Body?!

Time To Get Real!

Here’s the truth…I used the pandemic as a time to indulge in some unhealthy habits I thought I’d previously broken. If you’ve followed my journey, then you know I work out with an amazing group of women, I like my healthy smoothies, and on occasion I may post a healthy meal recipe (if you follow me you know I don’t really like to cook.) To cope with all the things going on in my life for the last nine months I used food as a bandage and crutch to help get me through some difficult moments. Initially I thought I … Continue reading Time To Get Real!

Dear Black Woman…

“Each time a woman stands up for herself, without knowing it possibly, without claiming it, she stands up for all women.” Maya Angelou Black Women are at a unique time in history. We are winning and some of us don’t even know it. We have the opportunity to grab this world, smack it, flip it, and turn it in a new direction. A direction led by our fierceness, our courageousness, our boldness, our confidence. In order to achieve this we must realize some things about ourselves Black Woman. We must hold ourselves accountable. We must realize that it is going … Continue reading Dear Black Woman…

Dear Black Man…

“The most disrespected person in America is the black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America is the Black woman.”  -Malcolm X What do you think Malcolm X would say to you as a Black Man today? Do you think he would applaud you for all the strides made toward protecting the Black Woman or do you think he would be disappointed. Personally I think the latter. Black Man the purpose of this letter is not to put you down, it is however a reality check into how one unprotected … Continue reading Dear Black Man…

Tell the Truth Shame the Devil!

My Grandma used to tell me “Tell the truth and shame the devil!” Wherever she said this I knew something or someone was about to be exposed. My eyes would widen and I would await to see who needed to shame the devil. In this day and age there are plenty of ways to shame the devil. Social media allows you to expose people to invade their space and let others know who they really are. It also allows for you to live this fake life where people don’t know what you have going on, only what you post. I’ve … Continue reading Tell the Truth Shame the Devil!