black women, health, parenting, self care, women

The She Deserves Coach Approach

In the last few months I have had the opportunity to really embrace the new newness of Just One Hot Mom! After deciding to take a sabbatical from ElevationsRadio.com and to pursue writing, podcasting, and coaching with full force, I am the happiest I have been. My goal, passion, and purpose is to empower maternal figures in all walks of life, to meet them where they are and encourage them to level up. I think we can all use a person standing in our corner cheering us on and telling us “get yo life” when we need to hear it. It is the desire of my hear to be that. 

Currently I have available a few coaching options, click here to see ht one that may work for your or a friend. I know that I have the unique ability to connect with people, especially maternals, that allows me insight into who you are and who you want to become. Working together as a team to figure it out will be life changing for us both. Third party perspective can be eye opening and allow you to see a vision for your life you may have never dreamed of. I get excited at the thought of helping others become who they are called to be. 

I know there is a maternal figure out there who can use my assist. At this time she may not have the means or know how to reach out to me. This is where you can help. Once a month I will offer The She Deserves Coach Approach! This is a free coaching service for a maternal figure nominated. Send an email to justonehotmom@gmail.com to nominate a maternal figure, tell why she should win the free session. I will need her contact information to schedule the 1 time, 1 hour session. You may not nominate yourself. I will only select 1 person a month, picked on the 15th day of the month. 

If you are wondering how I’ve impacted my community so far check out the video below for a few testimonials. I look forward to working with you.


parenting

Knowledge Is Power!

Our children will lose about 20-30% of the lessons they learned during the school year. Over the summer break it is up to us as parents to step-up and make sure that information is retained and gained. For younger children I have found a multitude of websites, worksheets, and workbooks to keep them engaged and learning. This requires for us as parents to engage as well, using these sites a lesson/learning plan is done for us. Personally in order to determine what I would study with Anissa I looked over her report card for the year and saw where her strengths and weaknesses are and begin to look for website and worksheets to help. I’m also a huge fan of Hooked On Phonics we use it throughout the school year to help her reading and comprehension.

Summer break is an opportunity for kids to relax, have fun, and explore without having to prepare the next day for school. Here are a few tips to help you make summer learning not feel like school:

  1. There will have to be some form of structure but nothing like school. A school day is 5-6 hours, you can make summer learning 2-3 hours giving them the opportunity to still enjoy their summertime fun.
  2. Find your inner teacher. My teacher friends find creative ways to find themes for their classroom throughout the year. We need to create this space at home. Create an area specifically for their studying. If you don’t feel creative check out a few pins here to help you create this space.
  3. Find sites that will help you create lesson/learning plans: DIY Camps

What do we do with teens (older children) for the summer? Before the last day of school I was sent a reading assignment for Jamiel. Summer reading is expected, but how do I get him to think, to study, to not lose those fact finding, paper writing skills we worked on during the school year? Thanks to another Hot Mom, Tawanna A. I have something for them to do as well. Let’s face it teens are not going to find getting an assignment from their parent as fun, but it’s a risk I’m willing to take to ensure my son retains his skill set needed for the next academic years of his life. The suggestions was to have your teen write a paper on a trending topic or social issue going on in today’s society. There’s a plethora of available topics. Below you will find a few you may want to consider:

  1. Consent: No means No! Define what consent means to them in reference to dating. Why is consent important? What do your state laws say regarding consent?
  2. Mental Health: Still Taboo? Are celebrities bringing mental health awareness to the forefront or a trending topic for the time? How can we as a community support mental health awareness?
  3. Social Media: Is it really social? Is social media making people less social in the physical? Are people setting others up for failure by faking their lives on social media

Those are a few topics I came up with, there are so many more. The point is to engage and keep the learning going. How can you help your child gain knowledge and let them know it’s a power?

health, parenting, self care

5 Tips To Help Get Kids Drinking Water!

We know that there are plenty of options out there to quench your thirst! Juice, milk, smoothies, pop/soda, and WATER! I think water gets a bad wrap with our kids because it has no flavor. If you are having a hard time getting your children to drink water hopefully these tips will help you!

  1. Infused Water! water infused with fruit is a great way to get kids to drink. The fruit gives it a little flavor, captures their attention with the beautiful colored fruit floating around. Itʼs health benefits include keeping them hydrated, detoxing their bodies, and improving their mood (we could all use a little mood improvement)
  2. Make it a game! Give each family their own water container each morning. Everyone starts with a filled water container and the first family member to finish their container throughout the day wins! Remind them they donʼt have to do this in one sitting but to remember to drink from the container throughout the day. At dinner crown the winner. Iʼd suggest making an actual crown and allowing that person to pick dessert or special treat.
  3. Lead by example! Letʼs face it our kids copy us. If they rarely see you drinking water then why should they. Explain to them why water is important to your body. Then ask them to sit down and share a cold glass with you.
  4. Because I said so! This is one tip I rarely use but it is in my parental arsenal. There are just those days where everything is a struggle including getting your kid to drink water. Weʼve all been there those days that make you question parenting. I like to call this move my Draw 4, if you’ve never played Uno you wonʼt understand. Itʼs the you have no other choice but to do it! Just drink the water so you can go play, have tablet time, or just not be bothered by mom. Like I said I rarely use this one, but note you have it!
  5. Creative thinking! Iʼve seen many water drinkers create encouraging gallon jugs. As they drink the ounces away there is a note there pushing them toward the finish line. You could do this for your kid. Design the jug or container specifically for them and help them reach their water drinking goal.

We know how important it is to drink water and itʼs health benefits. Plant the seed of health with your family today!

parenting

Love Is…

CHS Birthday Bonus Pack Every year for the last couple of years I have posted visions of black love for Valentine’s Day. While this year I sure missed collecting all those photos and hearing the stories behind those photos, I wanted to take a different look at love, I wanted to explore the love languages and how they apply to your life as a parental figure. So journey with me down this lane of love!

Act of Service

It’s imperative we show our children love. Treating them with respect, helping with homework, watching Moana with them for the millionth time, these are acts of love and acts of service. I know that we as parents can get busy, we don’t have time to use the restroom, let alone sit still and watch YouTube videos or make slime, but it’s important that we make time. It’s our responsibility to organize ourselves in such a way that we can be of service to our children. We must be an example of this type of love so that they not only experience it but can give it back to us and others as well. Take the time to figure out what acts of service your child is longing to have you participate in and then create the time and space to do said acts.

Quality Time

I think Acts of Service and Quality Time can cross over sometimes. Kids want us to be present in their lives. Whether it’s a school play, basketball game, a stunt you just have to come outside to see, they want us to spend the time recognizing them. Again, time is sometimes limited, there’s work, house work, social lives (yes parents we can have social lives), how do you create time for quality time with your children?! I thought that this quality time had to designated, special so I had to schedule it, what I learned is that my kids appreciate anytime we spend together as long as I making the effort to acknowledge them. Putting away groceries, sorting laundry, full concert in the car no matter where we are going, these are all moments I enjoy spending time with my kids and they enjoy with me. Quality time is what you make it, it’s up to you to make the effort to share time and be present.

Words of Affirmation

“I love you!” Three simple words, yet can be so hard for people to express, even parents. Our kids need to know how we feel about them, we need to speak it into them. Pouring words of encouragement into our children help to combat what they might be hearing from the outside world. You are beautiful vs. You need to lose weight, You are loved vs. Nobody likes you, You are intelligent vs. You are stupid, we lay the foundation for opening their minds, eyes, hearts, and ears to accept words that they hear about themselves. Actions and words work together to let our kids know how we feel about them. It’s up to us as parents to make every effort to show and speak love into them on a daily basis.

Receiving Gifts

Who doesn’t like to receive a gift?! Now some may say this is teaching kids to be materialistic, but it can also be an expression of love. I know for me personally I pay attention to things my kids like that will help them be creative. Symone loves to cook so I might pick up some jazzy spices for her, Jamiel loves sports so a new pair of cleats may do the trick, and Anissa LOVES designing for her baby dolls so finding some material on clearance works out. Whatever gift you decide to give your children, let it be from your heart. Children are more perceptive than we think, they can tell a guilt gift over one you put some thought into for them. So give the gift of love and pay attention to who your child is becoming and how you can encourage them to be the best version of themselves through gifting.

Physical Touch

I have to admit this is on the lower end of my personal love language so I have to work at it. Yes this extrovert will shy away from physical contact. I have never had this issue however with my children. I love hugging them. Hugging has become the way we greet each other on a daily. One of the brightest moments of my day is when I’m making dinner and my son, who has gained some height, enters the kitchen to bend down and hug me. It means just as much to me as it does to him. Although they are not as often as they use to be Anissa’s Eskimo kisses are always welcome. Even the oldest one comes by with her arms outreached. There has always been something about a hug with me, it’s squeezing a person and allowing their weight to fall into you, almost as it for that embrace all their cares have been dropped off and they or you can be weak, I think this is why I’m careful as to who I hug. My arms are a safe place for my children, I want them to know and feel it whenever we touch. HUGS TO MY BABIES!!!

Our children need our love! Home should be the first place they experience love. No matter the parental role you play please note that determining how the child in your life best receives love is important. Make every effort possible to support their love language.

How do you show the children in your life love? Do you wish as a child you would’ve been shown love in a certain way?

To hear more about Love Is…Tune into The Parental Guidance podcast, episode 5.