black women, self care, women

Know Nik November: Transition Ain’t Easy!

I get a text message from one of my favorite fashionista blogger, Marcia Craggett, The Undercover Fashionista, go follow her now. “Let’s shoot!” I think I came up with an excuse every time she made this request and then one day the request came through and it sounded like a demand. I love taking pictures but as of late I was just blah about it. I needed new content for my site, but what would the purpose be behind it. Marcia could careless, I needed pics and she wanted to shoot so here we go. Early on a Saturday morning in some cold almost wet weather, I’m outside, exposed! The hour long shoot produced this month’s reflection “Know Nik November!” In the next phase of this journey, I’m being called to be more transparent, to be open and honest about how I am called to help other moms, maternal figures navigate this life without completely losing it.

Life is always happening! The kids are growing and transitioning themselves. My 9-5 has undergone multiple restructuring, I’m currently looking for a home, I’m building a business in which I help other women elevate their lives, I’m speaking at conferences, I’m writing a book, podcasting, and blogging. As I grow and let’s face it dominate these areas of my life, I’ve suffered some losses. When they say it’s lonely on the rise to the top they are not lying! Relationships have become complicated and some have died. In a time where I definitely need a team around me to support, to listen, to keep me grounded, I often find myself standing alone! This is not what I envisioned when I saw success in my future. I spend a lot of time alone!

As I sit here and even write this I can honestly say in the beginning I was devastated! How can I accomplish this life without my people?! Then I am reminded of seasons and reasons! There are seasons for people, situations, and things in your life, there are reasons people come and go, why situations change you, and why things come in and others move out. Taking all of this in and really dealing with myself and my reasons for even wanting to elevate my legacy, I now know that every lesson I learned in those seasons and reasons has enabled me to handle transitioning.

I am blessed to walk in these shoes! While transitioning, building, and welcoming new people into the village I’m thankful for it all. There are moments (Facebook) memories Where I see where I was and I think back to those amazing times with amazing people, then I look forward and I see many more extraordinary awesome times to come. This month “Know Nik November” I’m letting you in. I want you to know me, to see me, the growth I’m going through and the growth I’ve achieved. I’m excited to be on this journey. Stay tuned!

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Tune in!!

Here are a few of my favorite guest and podcast episodes from the last year. I appreciate all my guest giving me the opportunity to share their story. Tune in! Click the links!

No Longer Powerless Featuring Sharone ThomasNo Longer Powerless Promo

Policing Our Communities Featuring Jamaal Ansaripolicing our communities

#BOSSMOM Featuring Sherita Carthonbossmom

Dating After Divorce Featuring Clotea Mackdating after divorce

Donnie Lynee Artist SpotlightDonnie Lynee Promo

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Join Me…Upstairs!

Welcome back hotties! It’s 2018 and it’s time to get what you’re destined for. After a long day of hustling hard join me as I sit back, relax and enjoy the fellas of Upstairs, the web series! Director Johnathan L. Jackson’s male version of Mara Brock Akil’s hit sitcom series Girlfriends, is refreshing. It offers insight into the male mind, while keeping us all entertained. Click the video for my full review and visit the Upstairs site for your own viewing pleasure.

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Anya’s World Adventures

Join me in the studio with Nikko FungChung. She is the author behind Anya’s World Adventures. Let’s go on the journey with Anya as she uses her magical globe to trot around the world and collect treasures.

Anya's World Adventures

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It’s My BLOGIVESARY!!!

CAN YOU BELIEVE IT?!  My baby turns 2 today and I am in shock.  Who would’ve thought 2 years ago when I sat down to write my first post, create a site, develop what Just One Hot Mom was going to be that, that seed would produce such AWESOME fruit.  She yeah, she, has produced a YouTube channel and podcast on http://www.elevationsradio.com.  She has allowed me to be transparent, to express my wins and losses.  I fell head over heels in love with writing all over again because of this blog.  I’m beyond blessed to be the person that gave birth to her.

I am thankful for each and every reader, for every listener, for every one that watches the videos.  I am thankful that you all take time out of your day to listen, view, comment or think about this HOT MAMA right here.  Thank you to my family, my village for all the love and support.  You all are one of the driving forces behind me, propelling me into excellence.  You help me exude confidence and I am thankful to you all.  To my children and my partner in crime, you all put up with the emotional imbalance that is Nanekia.  You see me at my best and often at my worst.  You love me out of my frustration.  I love and adore you all for that, this is for you, for our future. I am THANKFUL for you all.

I am blessed beyond measure and none of this would be possible had I not stepped out on faith, made the decision to be transparent and allow people to see the exposed me. For that FATHER GOD I thank you.  We talk on the regular, I am unconventional, unpredictable, imperfect, confusion, a bundle of sin, yet YOU said I’m going to use you Nik, I’m going to let people see ME in you.  I swear, I fail, I question, yet I am USABLE!  Do you know how hard that is to accept?! But I accept it!

So, I’ll close this with what I say every time I’m asked how I’m going to do this, how am I going to compete….Whatever God has in store for me is meant for me, whatever God has in store for you is meant for you, What is meant for me won’t feel or fit you right and vice versus.  Yours is out their waiting for you, I’m going for mine. GO GET YOURS!