Over the last few weeks I have been invited to at least 20 vision board parties. Each one promising to help you get clear about achieving your goals. I can’t lie, I’m a bit of a vision board Grinch. Maybe it’s because I’ve been invited to so many gatherings or because my goals and dreams are so personal to me I don’t feel comfortable putting them on display. Whatever it is, it’s got me cringing at the thought of attending yet another vision board party. That’s until my sister calls and says I want to host a “Power Board” party (insert eye roll), yet another vision board party! “No Nik, this isn’t what you think!” my sister knows me well, “Just come and see!”
So on a Saturday night I gathered for an intimate evening of plotting and planning. To my surprise this board party had a twist. Before we entered into a room filled with magazines, glue, glitter, and all the fixings for the ultimate vision board, we were invited to an amazing bible study in preparation for the next step. In steps one of my favorite bible study host, Minister Kodi Pride. Her message was titled “Vision vs. Sight”. We learned that people can lose sight of their vision, but the vision (the plan) is always there, just because you get stuck does not mean you lose your vision you just may have lost sight of that vision, but guess what you can get sight back. The vision may need to be modified, but the core foundation of what it is you want to achieve is always there waiting for you to build upon it. Once we gain sight of our vision then it is up to us to put power behind that vision so that it can come to fruition. Power behind a vision is required in order for that vision to manifest and become all you desire for it to be. As Kodi wrapped up she explained to us that we as women are queens on the chess board we are the piece that controls the game, we have the power. We must think of our vision the same way, we are in control and that vision is awaiting us to assert our power so that we may win.
My sister explained that she knew all of the women in the room had a vision, there was no question about that, but that sometimes we all lose sight. In order to regain our sight we need to put some power behind our thoughts and execution. This is where the “Power Board” comes into play. As we sit at the table with all the craft buckets we are instructed to select words, pictures, quotes that will empower us to want to achieve our vision. The purpose of this board is to keep you encouraged when it appears that you have lost sight of your vision. As I thought about my goals I began to notice words and pictures in the magazines that ignited a fire within me. I felt powerful! I know my vision (purpose), manifesting this can sometimes be exhausting, especially when I get stuck but looking to my “Power Board” for encouragement will help me keep my eyes on the prize.
Do you get discourage when faced with not reaching your goals or feeling stuck? How do you get yourself out of a rut? You can do this and so can I so let’s put some power behind these visions!
Let’s face it the holidays can be overwhelming! There’s a bunch of stuff to be done and everybody is depending on you to do it right?! I use to despise entering into the holiday season. During a time where you should be enjoying family you are bogged down by the business of the season, not able to fully enjoy and embrace this time. Well no more! I’m going to give you the top 5 things I’ve done to make the holiday season cheery and bright again. So let’s do this…
1. Make the decision today to not lose your cool. Now you may be thinking that’s easier said than done and you’d be right. I consciously make the effort to make sure if I feel myself getting overwhelmed I take a moment. I find a place that allows me to just breathe and be. When I go to this place I don’t take any to-do list with me or my phone, I inform my family that I am going to need a few moments (giving no reason) and I just step away. As moms we get so wrapped up in the details making sure things are good for everyone around us, all while not taking a moment to just take in the fact that this is a season to be with the ones we love. #MommyNeedsAMoment is real and we must take advantage of this practice so that we can be more present in our lives.
2. Plan & Prepare! Often times our failure to plan and prepare prevent us from enjoying our holiday time. Mama you can’t do everything and that’s okay! Break out your calendar, update events that you must make an appearance at in red, events that you would like to go to but may not have the time in yellow, and events you want to say no to in green. Now let’s organize that calendar. Place the red ones on your calendar in pen, if dates cross see if you can call on your village to help you meet the obligation. If not you will have to choose and deal with the outcome of that decision. Trust that people know your heart and if you could be there you would. Now place the yellow ones on your calendar in pencil. If you come across some free time and can attend then do so if not then that’s okay too. The green invites don’t make it to the calendar, they are a flat out NO! RSVP in a timely matter for the events you choose to attend and don’t allow anyone to guilt you into doing something you don’t want to do. This is your opportunity to set boundaries and give yourself permission to be free! Make a list, check it twice! I have become the queen of lists. This may be new to you but list can save your life. In the evening before I decompress and prepare for bed I list what I would like to accomplish the next day. I get detailed with the list so I can be prepared. Even in the event that something disrupts my plan I can always get back on track or adjust my list. For example:
How or What
All the rooms upstairs
Wash/Dry/Fold 2 loads
Mom/Dad/Anissa (Budget $150)
Prep for Ugly Sweater Christmas Party
Purchase sweater/RSVP to party
Schedule beauty appointments
Whatever you place on your list, don’t be discouraged if you don’t accomplish them all that day, just try again the next day. For time sensitive items prioritize them first.
3. Budget! We make a big fuss out of this time of year. There’s decorating, gifts, places to go, and things to do. Yet we are still working with the same funds we do throughout the year. Reality check…DON’T GO BROKE during this season! It’s one season! If you plan on attending activities then budget for those activities and stick to that budget, if you are buying gifts make a list of the individuals you need to buy gifts for and budget for each person. You control how you will spend your money. This is supposed to be the season of love and goodwill toward everybody, remember a gift is just that a gift, it truly should be the thought that counts!
4. Rest! Most of the time when I’m frustrated and easily angered during this season is because I have not gotten enough rest to deal with myself let alone anyone else. There’s always something to do or some place to be. Thus the reason for #2! Daily fit in some time to take a nap, sit, or meditate. We all need time to clear our minds of the wrestling of things going on around us. When we don’t get rest we can’t focus which makes it harder for us to engage with ourselves and others.
5. Do unto others! One of my favorite things to do to keep me grounded in this season is doing something unexpected for someone else. Tis the season right?! There are plenty of things you can do that lift your spirits and help someone else. Suggestions:
Adopt a family in need for the holidays and fulfill a wish for them (remember to budget for this)
Volunteer at a retirement facility. There are a lot of elders in our communities who are alone and would enjoy your company.
Visit with a friend! We often talk about getting together but life happens and we can’t. Make it a priority to just go, sit, and be with a friend.
Volunteer at a homeless shelter.
Send out encouraging notes to help people jump start going into their new year. (budget for this)
Volunteer on the teen floor of a hospital! I always want to hang out with the babies they are adorable, let’s not forget the other children in the hospital who could use that same love.
Take a little kid to the dollar store for Christmas shopping. Help them create their gift list and give them their budget. This has been one of my greatest joys to see what they think people need or would like.
Make homemade gifts for teachers. This is also one of my favorite things to do with my family. This requires some budgeting as well, but let’s face it our teachers deserve it. I’ve pinned a few of my favorites here.
Invite another family over for cookie baking, hot chocolate, holiday music, and time together. You can split the cost for this and enjoy time with each other.
Call up people you may have lost touch with. Note: Not all will be receptive, but hey you’re making an effort! We are entering into a season of loneliness for some it’s nice to know that we are thought of.
If you know of someone and this is their first holiday alone or their 10000th holiday without a loved one, be mindful to love on them extra hard this season. Living without someone doesn’t necessarily get easier and a little love can go a long way!
How do you keep from being overwhelmed during the holiday season? Drop your tips in the comments.