So…I received a video from someone I consider a “friend”. The video was titled “Single Black Mothers Created the Modern Day Ghetto,” catchy title right. Normally I would not entertain such ignorance but because, remember I said I received this from someone I consider a “friend” thought it might have a message he felt I needed to hear. Needless to say IT DID NOT!!! I won’t post the video because the profanity and ignorance that shines through makes me physically ill. I will however address it.

Throughout the video the narrator degrades black women calling them all forms of profanities, and the black children we raised are apparently profanities and apes as well. Every now and again you get one of these so-called angry militants who instead of coming up with a solution will just lay blame and take no responsibility, I took his video as just that, but what disturbed me was the comments. WHY DO WE AS A PEOPLE HAVE TO BLAME SOMEONE FOR WHAT WE ALL HAVE DONE! We are all guilty of not being willing participants in forming constructive ways to parent, build up our communities, give back, mentor, and trust each other. This was something we learned and instead of changing our mindset we blame each other. Thus the cycle of not owning our part continues and rants like this get viewed and like, arguments get started with no real resolution. My suggestion STOP BLAMING EACH OTHER!!!!!! We’ve done enough damage with the blame game it’s time that we offer some apologies and get to fixing our communities.

As a black woman raising a black son I’m offended that we all get lumped into one category, BITTER B*TCHES! Forgive the language but it’s the truth. Or at least my truth. I can’t possibly raise a man because I’m not one and how dare I not give my son access to men like this who claim they can make him a man. Let me address two things, 1. I am not a man so therefore have no knowledge of what it is like to be one, I am however a decent human being and I know how to raise a productive member of society. 2. Just because you are a man doesn’t mean you are any better at teaching my son to be a man. But guess what I’M NOT BLAMING YOU!!

In my opinion instead of blaming each other let’s take the initiative with all the young people in our lives male or female and show them how to lead, how to contribute, how to change society, how to build, how to exist with each other. What a wonderful world we would live in if that were the seed that was planted.

So my people what are you going to do? You have two options, 1. take the cowards way and blame someone else, 2. stand up and become someone in your community these young people can look to for guidance. The choice is yours!